The best part of starting a new relationship is the chase and the seduction of discovering each other for the first time. Exploring the unknown is exciting. That’s the reason a lot of people cheat, however, cheating destroys most relationships. …
How to Handle Dating Someone With Debt
Question: I have been dating this woman she has some stress from past debt, her job currently doesn’t cover her personal loans and credit card balance. How much of a concern should this be for us moving forward? ANSWER: First off, I’m …
Are you holding on to the fantasy that all the good things that happened at the beginning of your relationship truly define who your lover is? Are you hoping he or she will change and go back to being the …
My Partner Cheated On Me
I frequently get asked the question, “How do I handle staying with someone who cheated on me?” To make it work you have to be able to forgive completely. If you can’t then you have to get out. Forgiving completely means …
The Dating Diet
Bad relationships are pretty much the same as junk food. They usually start out with a hunger or craving for companionship, but if this healthy craving escalates into loneliness and neediness, such people tend to make bad choices. They might …
How to Fight Fairly to Help Your Relationship
Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Ask yourself that the next time you find yourself digging in your heels in an argument. What are you really trying to get? Too many of us …
Don’t be a hater. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. A major cause of breakups is not putting squabbles and resentments to rest. You need to forgive or get out! Nagging will never help you. …
Are You Sure You Want to Send That Email?
Too many people send that email that kills all chances to make their relationship work. I think it would be great if there could be an app to check the emotional tone of emails before they’re sent, the same way …
How Fantasies and Expectations Sabotage Relationships
When you catch yourself getting all worked up and calling your friends to complain about something you think is going on with your man, stop! Ask yourself what the facts are. Only respond to what is actually going on, not …
Are Your Expectations Ruining Your Relationships?
I think the number one cause of heartache and disappointment in relationships is failed expectations. Expectations are built in several ways: by reading into your man’s behavior, by romanticizing a relationship to be more than it truly is, by wanting …
How to Recognize a Cheater
Perhaps the greatest cause of heartburn is the feeling of betrayal as you recognize a cheater. Trust is an essential ingredient of a healthy relationship, and once it’s lost or threatened, it’s extremely hard to get back. Unfortunately, cheating is …
How to Recognize Verbal Abuse
It’s abusive if your partner criticizes things you say, how you do things, or what you look like. That may sound obvious, but if he’s disguising it as humor, it’s harder to recognize—and to stop. If you do rebut his …
How to Increase Emotional Intimacy
So what is emotional intimacy? Real intimacy takes time to establish. It involves trust and mutually feeling safe to be vulnerable, allowing healthy self-disclosure without fearing being betrayed or misunderstood. It involves respect, tolerance, and always sharing how you feel—no …
How to Communicate Better
One of the biggest mistakes in love is expecting your partner to know you so well that he or she will instinctively recognize exactly what you want and need. Is your partner psychic? Does your partner have ESP? No! You shouldn’t presume that …
If your partner blames you for anything that doesn’t go right, no matter how small, she’s probably the defensive type who can’t take responsibility for her own actions. Blame is an easy to spot junk food flag (red flag) that …