How to change your partner is a very common question I get from clients. The truth is, people don’t change unless they want to. Most people don’t want to. Change is hard. Yet many of us exert too much of …
The Importance of Spring Cleaning Your Relationship
With spring comes change and with that, sometimes relationships change. If the winter had you cooped up and feeling blasé you may be coming down with Spring fever. It’s time to check off the spring cleaning your relationship list and …
A first date is supposed to be about enjoying each other’s company and finding out if you have chemistry and commonality…but also making sure you don’t do anything to turn your date off. Talking too much or revealing too much …
Excuse Me, But –
Why healthy boundaries help both in & out of relationships If you went to purchase shoes that were labeled ON SALE but the salesperson rang them up at full price, what would you do? Most fashionistas wouldn’t hesitate to speak …
How to Handle Dating Someone With Debt
Question: I have been dating this woman she has some stress from past debt, her job currently doesn’t cover her personal loans and credit card balance. How much of a concern should this be for us moving forward? ANSWER: First off, I’m …
My Partner Cheated On Me
I frequently get asked the question, “How do I handle staying with someone who cheated on me?” To make it work you have to be able to forgive completely. If you can’t then you have to get out. Forgiving completely means …
The Dating Diet
Bad relationships are pretty much the same as junk food. They usually start out with a hunger or craving for companionship, but if this healthy craving escalates into loneliness and neediness, such people tend to make bad choices. They might …
How to Fight Fairly to Help Your Relationship
Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Ask yourself that the next time you find yourself digging in your heels in an argument. What are you really trying to get? Too many of us …
Are You Sure You Want to Send That Email?
Too many people send that email that kills all chances to make their relationship work. I think it would be great if there could be an app to check the emotional tone of emails before they’re sent, the same way …
Texting has changed relationships—and not for the better. I’m not a fan of rules but I do feel there needs to be one big bold rule about text messaging: NEVER send a text message to communicate emotions or feelings! Good …
Could You Fall in Love with Someone You’ve Never Met?
If you’ve been online looking for love, you’ve probably heard of the term Catfish. Maybe you’ve even seen the MTV show. If you’re like me, you’ve thought people were crazy when you heard stories about them falling in love and even mortgaging their …
Why Men Say Things They Don’t Mean
I’m sure we have all at one time or another gotten excited about something a man told us on a date, and then got angry when he never brought it up again and it didn’t happen. Why do men say …
How Fantasies and Expectations Sabotage Relationships
When you catch yourself getting all worked up and calling your friends to complain about something you think is going on with your man, stop! Ask yourself what the facts are. Only respond to what is actually going on, not …
Are Your Expectations Ruining Your Relationships?
I think the number one cause of heartache and disappointment in relationships is failed expectations. Expectations are built in several ways: by reading into your man’s behavior, by romanticizing a relationship to be more than it truly is, by wanting …
Why You Shouldn’t Make Promises While Dating
Falling in love is arguably the best feeling in the world. You can’t get enough of each other, can’t stop thinking about each other, and feel like it’s going to last forever. But the reality is nothing truly lasts forever, …