When you first start dating someone it is actually healthy to keep dating other people. It will help keep you grounded and prevent you from focusing all your energy on one person…which frequently causes unrealistic expectations and pushes him or …
How to Recognize a Cheater
Perhaps the greatest cause of heartburn is the feeling of betrayal as you recognize a cheater. Trust is an essential ingredient of a healthy relationship, and once it’s lost or threatened, it’s extremely hard to get back. Unfortunately, cheating is …
How to Recognize Verbal Abuse
It’s abusive if your partner criticizes things you say, how you do things, or what you look like. That may sound obvious, but if he’s disguising it as humor, it’s harder to recognize—and to stop. If you do rebut his …
How to Increase Emotional Intimacy
So what is emotional intimacy? Real intimacy takes time to establish. It involves trust and mutually feeling safe to be vulnerable, allowing healthy self-disclosure without fearing being betrayed or misunderstood. It involves respect, tolerance, and always sharing how you feel—no …
How to Communicate Better
One of the biggest mistakes in love is expecting your partner to know you so well that he or she will instinctively recognize exactly what you want and need. Is your partner psychic? Does your partner have ESP? No! You shouldn’t presume that …
How to Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships
To stop sabotaging your relationships you need to think before you act. The next time you’re feeling anxious or starting to panic because you haven’t heard from your man, or because he rejected you, yelled at you, or sent a …
How to Keep Love Alive
How to keep love alive? People need to feel desired and wanted. Simple acknowledgment goes a long way toward fostering love and keeping your partner happy. Once you’re in a healthy, committed relationship, share any loving thought that goes through your …
When to Return a Call or Text
Clients frequently ask me when to return a call or text. They want to know how long they should wait before responding to someone they’re interested in. The answer is, don’t wait. You should respond as soon as you want …
How to Stop Arguing
Couples come to me for coaching looking for an answer for how to stop arguing. They each tell me their side, and I check to make sure they’re both being heard. But sometimes the only solution is to agree to …
How to Be a Better Listener
One of the most frustrating things to come up against in a discussion or disagreement is someone who frequently interrupts. Isn’t it annoying when you can’t finish speaking your thoughts, let alone complete a full sentence? It’s called conversation hijacking. It …
Are You Emotional Junk Food?
Bad relationships are pretty much the same as junk food.The difference between consuming actual junk food and indulging in emotional junk-food is that with food, at least you usually know what you’re consuming isn’t really good for you. Many people …