Have you ever realized that you were wrong but were too proud, aka stubborn, to admit it? So you find yourself digging in your heels and making things worse? Or maybe you just need to have things your way …
It sounds so simple and stupid but it’s arguably the most important saying you need to remember. If you want something to change, you need to initiate change, because nothing changes if nothing changes. Especially when it comes to relationships. …
Are you waiting for your partner to change so you can get your needs met? That’s giving your power away, and leaving you in limbo. We are all responsible for taking care of our own needs. What you need to …
When your partner makes you angry is your first instinct to lash back and hurt him or her? S/he hurt you so turn around is fair play, right? No, that’s destroying your relationship. You need to react rationally, with integrity, …
You Can Never Take Back Mean Words
Mean and nasty criticism of your partner, said out of anger, with an intention just to hurt will permanently damage your relationship, and very possibly end it for good. So if you’re not trying to break up then you need to choose your words …
Don’t Hold Your Feelings In When Your Partner Upsets You
If your partner does something that upsets you, you need to speak up about how you feel immediately — without yelling. Therein lies the problem for a lot of people. Don’t hold your feelings in when your partner upsets you. …
Why You Should Never Ask How Many Men She Slept With
You are never supposed to discuss the details of your past relationships with your new partner. Women who constantly talk about their ex, or exes, create jealousy and insecurity in their partner. It certainly doesn’t create healthy intimacy between you; …
If You Escape Your Relationship You’re Going To Lose It
Do you avoid intimacy or spending time with your significant other? Do you need a lot of space? If so, you’re pushing him or her away. I need to warn you, if you escape your relationship you’re going to lose …
Your Emotional Wall Keeps You Alone
Being emotionally open in a relationship is very scary for people who are uncomfortable with feeling vulnerable. Putting up an emotional wall to hide behind feels safe. After all, it is much easier to get angry than to share what you’re truly feeling. But …
The Importance of Spring Cleaning Your Relationship
With spring comes change and with that, sometimes relationships change. If the winter had you cooped up and feeling blasé you may be coming down with Spring fever. It’s time to check off the spring cleaning your relationship list and …
How to Fight Fairly to Help Your Relationship
Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Ask yourself that the next time you find yourself digging in your heels in an argument. What are you really trying to get? Too many of us …
Why Men Say Things They Don’t Mean
I’m sure we have all at one time or another gotten excited about something a man told us on a date, and then got angry when he never brought it up again and it didn’t happen. Why do men say …
How to Increase Emotional Intimacy
So what is emotional intimacy? Real intimacy takes time to establish. It involves trust and mutually feeling safe to be vulnerable, allowing healthy self-disclosure without fearing being betrayed or misunderstood. It involves respect, tolerance, and always sharing how you feel—no …
How to Communicate Better
One of the biggest mistakes in love is expecting your partner to know you so well that he or she will instinctively recognize exactly what you want and need. Is your partner psychic? Does your partner have ESP? No! You shouldn’t presume that …
How to Stop Arguing
Couples come to me for coaching looking for an answer for how to stop arguing. They each tell me their side, and I check to make sure they’re both being heard. But sometimes the only solution is to agree to …